THYME ON 43RD ~ Brookswood Luminaire

When people lose someone they love, the inclination to forget self-care is a consistent factor in the grieving process. Recently, it was brought up in conversation that I must be doing well as I am able to write posts in my blog. I shudder at the notion that someone can define me as in good health, merely because I chose to share words. For me to be carrying on daily, it takes every bit of strength and courage; even to face the world. It is much easier to ‘hide’ behind a computer screen than to actually be in society on a regular basis. When I do venture out, it is to specific places where I feel that I will be in control. Additionally, I prefer locations which reflect the harmony I am seeking.  

THYME ON 43^RD JAPANESE GARDENS is one of those settings that transformed my intention of finding some peace into reality. This stunning place was discovered in December of last year, when I was not looking forward to the holiday season.

Upon arriving at the location in Langley, B.C, the grounds had been transformed into a breathtaking winterscape of brilliant LED lights, Christmas décor and a fusion of warmth; all found in the outdoor structures. 

Every detailed adornment was blended in a whimsical style. Combining the beauty of nature with exceptional golden baubles, lighted deer and a captivating angel, gave the impression of tranquility layered with elegance. 

 My attention was pulled in many directions as I kept finding the loveliest of objects interspersed amongst the Japanese Gardens. Walking over the wooden bridge, I was drawn in by the sound of a cascading waterfall, which plunged into a pond filled with multicolored Koi fish. I strolled along the stone interlocked with lush thyme and found myself, along with my partner, being welcomed by the element of fire at the outdoor hearth.

It was pointed out the roof covering the seating area was active with living plants, which promote a clean atmosphere and is a habitat for birds in the area to come nest. All of the spectacular grounds were created and designed by native Japanese landscapers. 

As a person who has volunteered many years of dedication to community and assisting others, I understand the value and importance of giving back. What impressed me with THYME ON 43^RD JAPANESE GARDENS was the owner- Evelyn Faulkner’s purpose for opening her one- acre gardens to the general public; for a period of time back in December. She kindly asked for any donations to be made at the gate entrance to the gardens, in support of Ronald McDonald House. 

A recent post by Evelyn Faulkner on THYME ON 43^RD JAPANESE GARDENS Facebook page states:    

“Thank you to everyone for their generous donations to Ronald McDonald House during our recent event, Brookswood Luminaire! We raised $5200.00 which enables a family to stay at the house for 80 nights! Well done!”

As I am not on Facebook anymore, I was fortunate to still be able to access the update and provide to my readers, the generous contributions people made over the holiday season, to the worthy cause of Ronald McDonald House.

Being a mother who has lost a child, I was able to connect with Evelyn Faulkner’s purpose of supporting an organization that assists families when they are facing challenging times. For me, I found grace under the shelter of palm trees, in the midst of a darken night aglow with marvelous simplicity. It was a place where I could abandon my sorrow and accustom myself to the sheer idea of wellness. 

This one evening in December, uncertain of what I may find, I was greeted by the devotion of those wanting to share the true essence of what Christmas is all about: to stir the imagination, ignite the senses and find the light within all of us. 

By T L. Alton 

* I would like to further add THYME ON 43RD  JAPANESE GARDENS is seeking Corporate Sponsorship. As Evelyn would like to open her garden 1 day a week for respite, for caregivers and people needing healing in any way. If she were able to secure Sponsorship, she considers it a blessing.

* Thyme on 43rd is located at 21004 43 Ave. For further information on booking THYME ON 43^RD JAPANESE GARDENS for Fundraisers, Private Tours and Events, Contact: info@thymeon43rd.com or 

Telephone: 604-534-5902

When Darkness Sings the Dawn

One of the moments of solitude that I have been graced with since Shayla’s passing, is in the form of Sendall Gardens. This sprawling 3.67 acre park sings it own praises in the many assorted flowers, tapered shrubbery and a variety of exceptional trees.

I recall taking my daughter to this place of splendour and us strolling along, inhaling the backdrop of Hydrangeas, clematis and lilies. Scattered throughout the landscape were secluded areas where we had taken the weight off our feet.  We encircled ourselves in the beauty of nature and looked up at the sky with lavender hues, to imagine the nightscape… full of brilliant stars.

Involving Shayla in my one of my favourite places was another connection I relished with my daughter. I thoroughly enjoyed her face lighting up, when she discovered something.

Returning to Sendall Gardens after losing her felt awkward…at first, almost out of place. I was uneasy and not sure how I would find the same comfort as before. I took light steps all around the area, listening to my footsteps on the crackling branches; echo the loneliness I suffered inside. It took a great deal of focus to give attention to my vivid surroundings. I sat at a wooden ledge by the creek, letting the top branches shelter me from droplets. I took in air blended with composted leaves. My eyes gazed upon the lush greenery with moss clambering the roots of trees. I wondered what hidden treasures lay at the base where I was. What raw materials were concealed amongst the layers of the forest, possibly waiting to be unearthed?

I emerged from my own secret garden and fell in love again with the park of Sendall. This is such a place, where the loss of a loved one finds serenity. An environment that sees the rays of sunlight filtering through the branches, while water flows in a constant state of smooth moving torrents that beckon you to gather nearby.

Nestled amongst suburbia, (just off 50 Ave in Langley, BC) are the grounds of the Botanical gardens. A pleasant addition is a greenhouse, filled with an assortment of tropical plants and flowers. One of the unique planters is an elongated piece of bark, filled with moist soil and packed with an array of succulents. Amidst the foliage are bursts of colour from the fusion of birds of paradise and 13 other exotic plants grown inside the greenhouse. There is also a wonderful tribute to what I refer to as “Bob’s Bench.”  This autumn, I have taken several people from my Grief Group and we have shared tears, stories and countless memories of our loved ones who have passed away.

It is my belief that I was first drawn to this extraordinary location because of its beauty. Now, I simply go there to rejuvenate my weary soul and as my hand settles into a particular area, I have come to know that as grief transforms my life, it can never rearrange the love I have for my sweet angel, Shayla.

By TL Alton