Showing posts with label best friends. Show all posts
Showing posts with label best friends. Show all posts

Saturday, November 2, 2013

A Palace for Shayla and the Fairies



The fairy poet takes a sheet
Of moonbeam, silver white;
His ink is dew from daisies sweet,
His pen a point of light.
~Joyce Kilmer


Shayla believed in fairies as much as she did in pots of gold at the end of the rainbow; she took baths with them, stomped in mud puddles with pixies and under a canopy of mushrooms, she saw their tiny homes. 


The past few weeks have seen me work on a special project as a way to honour her beautiful imagination and The Heart Pebble Movement. I found a lovely wooden chapel at the Michael’s Store and decided to create a lasting tribute to my daughter. 
 
I recall taking Shayla to Redwood Park for the first time and when she found out that amongst the spectacular trees, there resided a “Fairy Forest,” she was thrilled to go discover it’s magic. 


In decorating the Fairy Chapel, I put great detail and thought into how it would be created. I have mentioned in previous posts that Shayla actually means: “From the Fairy Palace.” On the outside, I put a sticker from La Nouba we saw at Walt Disney World Resort in Orlando, Florida. Then I added quotes about dancing and living life to the fullest. There was a key and star I added, in an addition to a hummingbird. Every single item has significant meaning to me; I am only providing a few details, as this project was very close to my heart. 


On the one side, I added a Fairy girl and also butterflies all around it. A simple cross and praying hands graces the front. Inside, I placed a beautiful picture of Shayla in a blue, scrolled frame. I glued a candle holder and added one single tea light- Shayla’s light illuminating the darkness. Mementos of Faith were sprinkled much like the fairy dust that later Shayla’s best friend, Chantel and I would intersperse in Redwood Park. Links to The Heart Pebble Movement were added and a small polished stone with the word “STRENGTH” was glued inside.





When Chantel arrived to go to the Fairy Forest, I shared with her the Chapel I had made in Shayla’s memory. She loved the entire project and was excited to place it in Redwood Park. Chantel had never been to this extraordinary forest and upon arriving we looked at other fairy doors and another small house that had been created by others. 

We searched for the right location to place the Fairy Chapel. When we came upon a large hollow trunk, I saw something sparkle. It was a red door placed inside the remains of the tree and had an “S” on it! Both of us knew that this was the place to set ours inside. 

I wanted the Chapel to sit on something and when I discovered a small granite stone- a mini version of the one at McKinley Reservoir; I was delighted to set it inside the trunk. On top we put the fairy creation and then built a roof out of moss, bark, leaves and sticks from the ground. 

We felt like warriors of the woods as we gazed upon the final setting of the Fairy Chapel. Chantel had the brilliant idea to shake over the dirt, our red and snow-like glitter, as if to follow the steps of the tiny pixies up to their new home. The butterfly sticks we had were set into the ground. We turned on the light inside and to the left side of the trunk; we put on a light where the tips of a butterfly pulsated a radiant glow. It was reflective of the colourful halo I know my sweet angel now wears. 


Next, we took bubble wands and let the iridescent spheres be carried by the light breeze, settling on the tree trunk and cascading upon the Fairy Chapel. Each of us took our fairy dust and sprinkled a small amount into the palms of one of our hands. Clasping them together, our feet sprung into the air as we chanted: “WE BELIEVE IN FAIRIES!”  





After, as we left under a veil of darkness, Chantel and I pondered over who would be the first to make the grand discovery of our offering to the woods. This fantastic remembrance of Shayla and her love for TINK -along with all fairies-is much like the trees keeping peace. With their branches extending into the real world and offering protection; this is our way to keep her memory alive. 




VIDEO: I HOPE YOU DANCE- LEE ANN WOMACK

By T.L. Alton

Tuesday, October 23, 2012

Forever Young

"May the good lord be with you
Down every road you roam
And may sunshine and happiness
Surround you when you're far from home
And may you grow to be proud
Dignified and true
And do unto others
As you'd have done to you
Be courageous and be brave
And in my heart you'll always stay
Forever young, forever young
May good fortune be with you
May your guiding light be strong
Build a stairway to heaven
With a prince or a vagabond
And may you never love in vain
And in my heart you'll always remain
Forever young, forever young
And when you finally fly away
I'll be hoping that I served you well
For all the wisdom of a lifetime
No one can ever tell
But whatever road you choose
I'm right behind you, win or lose
Forever young, forever young" ~ Rod Stewart
The efforts needed to maintain a solid friendship is a labour of love. Shayla was loyal to the one person who had seen her through a myriad of changes; typical of a young girl, growing up. For Shayla, the other half of her care-free soul was her best friend, Chantel. The measure of their friendship was forged in secret codes, nicknames only they knew and adoration for everything Disney. While both in appearances were the opposites of each other; their capacity to dream big saw each one hold the other in reverence. Soft-spoken Chantel seemed to blossom off of the energy Shayla and her shared for almost 21 years of companionship. For these two girls, nothing limited them in pursuing their dreams and maintaining their friendship.
Growing up, they took the common things in life and made them adventures of the heart. Summer days were spent swimming at Wood Lake in Oyama, BC. They caught rays of sunshine together; while never holding back what teenage girl woes were bothering them. Often at parks such as Kaloya surrounded by Kalamalka Lake, they would swings off a tree branch, over the water.
After Shayla passed away, I found a video of the two of them, on a set of playground swings, with my daughter singing: “Swing Life Away”- by Rise Against. Their sweet innocence reminded me how no matter how much we grow up, a part of us sways to the rhythms of life- never too late to embrace the kid in all of us.
Last December, I found myself sitting across from Chantel, and reaching out to her I gathered what strength I had to give her something. This wasn’t an ordinary gift, rather one from the collection of Shayla’s Christmas presents that she would never open.
Since my daughter’s death, I have reached out to those who knew Shayla and saw another side to my child that she reserved for the closest of friends. Both Chantel and I have spent quality time together, immersed in stories of grandeur and silliness. The endless hours spent playing Disney Monopoly and tears shed over those who broken their hearts.
Earlier this year, Chantel and her mother Rene went to Wood Lake and placed several pebbles for Shayla. They stood together, a weight upon themselves in mourning the loss of the girl, who wanted to bring change to the world. For my daughter, Rene’s home was another place of refuge; where amidst the walls of Chantel’s bedroom, the genuineness of what they shared was sheltered.


As I write this, Shayla’s best friend and her family are in Disneyland. I received an email from Chantel asking where she and her mother could put some pebbles. This brought me grace in knowing they were thinking of my daughter at one of the happiest places on earth. I offered ideas and smiled, knowing amongst the spirit of old Walt Disney, a part of The Heart Pebble Movement is being carried on.

By T L. Alton